I'm figuring out that this is how it is being a parent of small children. It's like you disapear of the face of the earth or being swalloved up by a whale. There is just limited amount of hours in a day to fit in everything that you would like to do or sometime feel you have to do. Priority is the name of the game and if you decide to have a family it should be your number one priority. But it also important to find time to take care of yourself so you don't go crazy. You just need to find the right activity that can give you some satisfaction and fits your daily schedule. If this means passning on things you yard to do with friends before hopefully there will be a time when you can resume these activities again.
When the whale spits you up again!